Am I not normal?

I go to school with a lot of girls. Like probably too many, and right now I can’t deal with how many girls I go to school with.

So much “drama” even though, there isn’t anything to be dramatic about.

I’m getting along great with my classmates and I love them, I just can’t wait to not see them for two days. I say that lovingly, but I just need a break from them.

Here’s why:


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Seriously, there are multiple girls that are planning their wedding. I’m saying “planning their wedding” instead of “engaged” because most of these girls don’t have rings. They have boyfriends they’ve dated for a few months, are 18-22, and planning weddings.

Or they’re pregnant, which to me is less crazy than planning a wedding without being engaged.

Am I crazy though? Am I not normal?

I have to say I want to get married and have babies too, but I thought people got a ring first before planning all this.

Please just let me know if my mentality is off, was I raised wrong?

Please don’t think I am against getting married young either. I am not.

I have no opinion on when is a good age to get married, I really don’t think it’s my place to have an opinion on when someone gets married.

I’m more expressing concern. My friends haven’t even argued with their guys yet, they don’t know what makes them tick. I feel like there is this phase you go through in a relationship and its the “every time we fight I worry we will break up” phase. Eventually that phase either results in you guys getting over that phase or you fight and breakup. They’re still in the cupcake my man is flawless phase.

I’m just scared that these girls are going to get married, argue with their guy one night, and then worry that divorce is the only option. They’re young, and they’re girls, we jump to conclusions when we are scared and upset.

Please just tell me if I’m being out dated, should I start planning a wedding without a ring?

Pinterest is making women crazy, its making them all think that life is a race and whoever does all the “milestones” in life the quickest wins.

I guess I will just take last place voluntarily then.

Even when I was with Calvin —(this is a complicated story right now that I’m not willing to talk about yet, we’ve been talking though, and I know I said things on here, but I did/do miss him I just hate admitting that)— I wasn’t planning a wedding!

If its supposed to last forever, take time, if the person loves you too they’ll wait.

Side note- the guy has changed the wedding date five times, he keeps pushing it back, or coming up with excuses about things, and for a while he didn’t want to tell his parents. we-woo, we-woo, we-woo those are warning signs to me…

Maybe they’re not, maybe I’m the delusional one.

If you know he’s the one, why not wait until you have moved out of your parents house, or have graduated school (its  5-6 months away)

I don’t know, I’m scared for these girls…

I’m also scared that I’m the abnormal one, because I’m the minority at school -no kids, no wedding planning.

But, hey, at least we all still have something in common, none of us have rings! 😉

sorry that was mean

Iove you!


Voting: Warning this is a rant and may upset a few.

I hope you find this post informational, and a touch humorous


54% of people from ages 18-31 are registered to vote. FIFTY-FOUR. That makes me so mad. It very well may be even less than that, some websites gave percentages in the 30’s.

I am so sick of people around my age (18-25) saying things like “I hate politics” “I don’t care who runs my country” “Whatever” etc…

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I am over my age group being afraid to have an opinion on something, and not standing up for what they believe in.

It just ticks me off.

I am not saying you have to go out and claim to be a republican, liberal, or democrat, but I do think you should be educated on these things.

Having the right to vote is such an honor. Millions of people fought for the right to vote for years. Did 46% of people my age not take 9th grade civics? Do they not know what the 15th, 19th,and 26th amendments are? People fought so hard for this right and now some are too busy playing NBA 2K15, and watching the Kardashians to even care.

I freaking love playing 2k and I love the Kardashians (Ps they come back on tonight at 9!)

But I don’t find either one of these things to be more important than taking the time to educate myself.

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It just makes me so sad.

I’m not asking people to believe what I believe, and frankly I am still trying to figure out where I stand on some topics. We could completely disagree on abortion, gay marriage, immigration, planned parenthood, religion, what to do with Russia right now; but for goodness sakes, take a stand for something!

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My age group is wasting their human rights in the United States. Do they not realize how awesome it is that we get the right to vote for who we want to run our country? Even if the person we wanted didn’t get elected, we got to put our voices out there and be heard.

So many countries don’t let their people have this privilege.

I really encourage people to watch the debates, they’re on youtube if you missed them. There is also a debate on October 13th.

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They don’t even have to do anything! They just have to grab their beer, eat their potato chips, and sit on their ass for a few hours and learn something.

I’m not saying I’ve been all “go voting” since the day I was born, I didn’t really pay attention until I actually was of legal age to vote.

I also know that voting is a “right” and not a “duty” but it’s a right that we shouldn’t take for granted.


As a Christian, the bible informs me that I am supposed to vote, so that’s why I vote, and thats why I take the time to educate myself.

The first debate I ever watched, I had to google so many things, but thats okay.

I’m kinda sorry if this offended anybody, but at the same time I am not, voting is important, and something I firmly believe we should all be doing.

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I love you guys, despite our differences in beliefs,

have a beautiful day.

One more thing: If for some reason you don’t vote this year, don’t you dare complain for the next four.


Hey guys!

So I was just sitting her doing nothing when all of the sudden I had an epiphany!

I go to an Aveda cosmetology schools.

Meaning all the products that we use is Aveda.

If you haven’t heard of Aveda, let me tell you about it!

Aveda is an all natural, organic, hair, skin, and makeup line. Or as we are supposed to say “Aveda is the art and science of pure flower and plant essence.”

To be honest, I was a skeptic at first. I still am when it comes to the makeup, except for the lip glosses, if you’re looking for a pigmented gloss, Aveda has some very nice ones.

I wanted to share some of my favorite products with you though.

*I’d like to apologize that I don’t have any photos of them I kept trying to upload and my computer wouldn’t let me. But I recommend opening a new tab and going to and searching as you read.

My favorite shampoo that we have is the Rosemary Mint line. When I die, I think Heaven will smell like this shampoo.

Now the conditioner I use is called Madder Root. Let me tell you about this conditioner, its super cool. Well actually there are a few kinds of these conditioners, and I’m going to inform you of all of them!

Madder root is for red hair – the conditioner basically works as a temporary color, it enhances the red pigment.

Blue Malva is for Grey and Blonde hair – It creates silvery brightness to grey hair, and deducts brassy tones in blondes.

Black Malva is for brunette and black hair – diminishes red hues.

Camomile is for people with lighter golden tones in their hair – it enhances the golden tones in the hair.

Clove Color is for medium brown shades of hair – enhances warm tones.

Now I am only mentioning the conditioners because the conditioners are the ones that contain the pigmentation, the shampoo has some but its not as noticeable as if you were to use the conditioner. Of course they do work beautifully together, I just really love the rosemary mint shampoo.

My favorite styling line is Pure Abundance or the Brilliant line. We have lines for all types of hair, and I love them, they only one I haven’t worked too much with is the Be Curly line.

My favorite Pure Abundance products are:

  1. Pure Abundance Style Prep – it is a heat protectant (which you should be using because heat is so damaging for your hair) but it also adds volume, and it isn’t heavy on the hair. I love this product, it’s just a good product, I can’t even explain it, it’s just the bomb.
  2. I also love the Pure Abundance Hair Potion – It’s so cool! But it’s tricky. It is a powder that you just kind of put on the roots of your hair. It is a powder and that is how it is supposed to be. If you shake the bottle before use it becomes a liquid and when that happens its basically no good. I love this product though. it really does add lift to the hair. It works especially well on people with shorter hair.

My Favorite Brilliant products are:

  1. Brilliant Anti-Humectant Pomade – The product does exactly what the name of it says it does. It repels humidity. This product is great for the summer time. Have you ever curled your hair in the summer, step outside, and watch your hair just fall? I swear, if you use this product, you won’t ever have that problem again.
  2. Brilliant Humectant Pomade – This does the exact opposite. I’d start using this product in the winter months. especially if you live in a place that becomes Antarctica in the winter, like Michigan. This product does work very well on textured hair, my friend says she has been using it for a while now, even during the summer because she wants the moisture in her hair, because her hair is more coarse and dry.
  3. Brilliant Spray-on Shine – it adds shine. There really isn’t much else to say. Except I would only use 1-2 sprays for the whole head, because a little goes a long way.

Now, last but definietly not least, Aveda Blue Oil. This is probably the most miraculous product I’ve ever used. It is just an oil but it works miracles. Have a headache? Rub it on the area that is sore and watch the ache decrease magnificently. Seriously I have been getting a lot of migraines lately, and this oil has saved me numerous times. It dissolves tension beautifully.

  • multiple people have asked me if there is any form of Hemp or Cannabis in this product and the answer is no. Aveda is natural but not that natural.

If by some miracle you are still reading this long page, God bless you, and thank you.

Have a lovely night, Kim is on Periscope now so I’m going to go listen to her change my life.

LoVe YoU!

Real Quick

Hey guys!

I hope you’re all doing great!

I just wanted to hop on here quickly and share something with you.

There is this lady out in the world and God is working magic through her.

She is a pastor.

Her usernames for social media is RealTalkKim.

Have you heard of the app Periscope? Its really cool. Most nights she gets on and preaches.

Its a live feed and super cool.

You should check it out!

It’s a fun little app.

*this isn’t a promotional or anything, I really just wanted you guys to know about it.*


I couldn’t think of a title.

So I looked around at what I saw, saw my favorite thing in the whole world, and named it after him.


My dog.

He’s beautiful, he brings me joy, he makes me smile, and currently he’s hogging my bed.

I don’t really mind though, he’s the love of my life and he can do what he wants.

That’s him on my parents boat today.

Here are some more photos from the boat and the lake: 

Thats my dad, we clearly look nothing alike… :p

The sun was also in our eyes but I still love this photo

This is Leo and I playing in the water! He’s so cute.  

He loves me.

I just wanted to share these photos with you guys.

Have a good day!

Have a lovely Labor Day Tomorrow

Today I’m not a badass.

So I know most days I’m this fearless, outspoken, queen of Grand Rapids, but today I just can’t be.

Guys, you totally know I’m kidding.

Although I love myself, I do not have this mentality about myself.

I hope you get what I mean though. Like most days I wake up and I’m like “okay, self, lets do this”, then I cue the Beyoncé and “do this” as I wrote.

But today, today is not one of those days.

Today is a day that I missed my bed before I even left it.

I’ve been dealing with a lot of emotions lately and I don’t know why. Seriously, no more than 10 minutes ago I was in my bathtub crying. Why, you may ask. Well, because I’m a girl and I felt like I needed to cry, so I did.

I also have to admit that I’ve been seriously lacking in being a Godly woman these days. The feeling I have been dealing with the most lately is regret.

I know I’m a normal 20 year old girl, and many of us all deal with the same temptations, but before I’m a 20 year old girl, I am a child of God.

I know I can go to Him for anything, because He loves me, and views me as if walk on water, but I just feel bad.

Like what am I going to say, “Hey Big Guy, I know its been awhile, but (insert poor excuses here).

I know I just need to ask for forgiveness and I’ll be forgiven but let’s be honest, it’s not that easy in the mortal world.

It’s way easier to just sulk, feel bad, eat too much, cry, and pity ourselves, than tell the creator of the universe that you messed up. In my mind I’m thinking “Hey God, I know you say my body is a temple, but lately I’ve been treating it like a trash can.”


Disappointing the most important relationship in my life, blows.

I know He loves me, don’t think I’m questioning that. I’m just sad to have to go to Him and apologize for self abuse.

So if any of you guys have any advice on what to do, let me know.

I love you!